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Ever noticed how some people have the ability to captivate absolutely anyone? No matter what they look like or how much money they have, these people can just walk into a room and instantly be the centre of attention. That's charisma 

an easy way to make the word charisma understandable is "Sophisticated Confidence"  knowing when to speak, and what to say when you speak, knowing when not to speak, and knowing how to carry yourself throughout, this usually takes place with self-discipline, which is acquired with practice

Charisma has it applies to social scene and women involved in the social scene, is all about diplomacy

The first element of charisma is "PRESENCE." Presence, as used here, refers to the quality of commanding respectful attention.

These usually entails dressing in a style considered fashionable & considering your target e.g  a way as to impress the women you're targeting. Biker girls like tattooed-up bikers. Thug girls like thug guys. Punk rock girls like punk rock guys, Cowgirls like cowboys, how you walk, body language, a friendly smile, knowing when to speak, and what to say when you speak, knowing when not to speak, and knowing how to carry yourself.

BEARING: The manner in which one carries or conducts oneself it applies to both physical posture and general conduct. The way you carry yourself will often determine how you are treated. If you carry yourself as if you're a person aware of social graces, and if you carry yourself as if you're a person of prestige (you're used to having respect), for the most part you will be regarded in the same fashion. Act like an important person to be treated like one.

MANNER: way of acting or behaving. You put thought into your words and actions - you base what you do and say on how the other person will most likely react. Constantly thinking of reactions as regards your target before altering words. Be witty 

A charismatic persona is thought of as being a good conversationalist, among other things, and for you to continue to give off the aura of charisma that you initially gave off with your presence and regal bearing, then you need to be good at conversation

FINESSE:  Refinement and delicacy of performance, execution, or artisanship. Suave, Smooth, Finesse, Swag This is how you want to go about your act. You will need to think along these lines when focusing on presence, on bearing, on manner. You shouldn't be able to tell where one ends and the other begins. They should all merge into one, each small bodies coming together to form a smooth liquid unity.

DIPLOMACY :  Tact and skill in dealing with people; subtly skilful handling of a situation involving others. Diplomacy represents a mastery of social skills. In the art of charisma, having it will make you, and not having it will break you. It is the ability to relate with anyone and everyone that you meet on their level. You must change your style and your way of speaking to suit each person and each situation Learn to be sensitive to the other person, listening for what they're really saying.

ALLURE: the power to entice or attract through personal charm. Ah, the last of the elements. It is the essence of charisma. But without the other elements, it would never be reached. When we've mentioned "aura" as a part of charisma, allure is that aura. It is infective. Women and guys alike are drawn in. Suddenly you find yourself surrounded by many friends and girlfriends ("groupies"). And once in your presence (The First Element), it's hard for them to distance themselves - as long as you continue to pay attention to each individual element. For example, diplomacy: When you excel in diplomacy (The Sixth Element), you learn to make others feel better about themselves, becoming a source of pleasure to them. In fact, they grow dependent on your manner (The Third Element) to feel good about themselves. You may call them friends, but psychologically they become your followers. Other people read this - and enigma kicks in and heightens the effect: these other people start to wonder subconsciously: There must be something exceptional ("cool" or "charming") about you that's making people want to be around you. . . What is it? Imaginations start to race.

Benjamin Franklin once said:

"If rascals knew the value of virtue, they would become virtuous out of sheer rascality."

Charisma doesn't happen overnight. It has to be developed. Your goal then is to focus on each individual element, like "Presence" and "Diplomacy", PRACTICING these elements until you have all seven down. Confidence comes in knowing what women respond to. It is up to you then to perfect your skills in charisma with the people around you and eventually charisma will come naturally.

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